I just came back from a friend’s wedding. Believe or not, this was the first time I have attended a wedding of a personal friend. The girls I have known since secondary days are now 25 years old. It’s about time =)
Anyway, this blog post is not about weddings or its coming of age. This is about old friends and how we communicate with one another. Today, I witnessed something very interesting.. and special..
Stelly’s mum saw an old customer at her coffeeshop and began to strike a conversation. It went like this:
"Hey, have you eaten?", Stelly’s mum asked.
Oh and of course, all messages were in hokkien.
"Oh! Where were you this morning?", the old customer replied.
"Eat already right?", she asked again.
"Oh yeah, you were at the back frying noodles!", said the customer.
"Haha, you must come back eat more okay?", said Stelly’s mum.
"I saw you stealing a bit of noodles to eat while frying! Haha!", the guy joked.
"Okay okay, take care!"
And the conversation ended, both parties in smiles and joy.
If you noticed something, there weren’t a proper conversation going around. It’s all pleasantries and niceness. And that’s what I truly admire about our elders. If we were to hold such a conversation, there would be some of us getting irritated, some of us confused, and others totally feeling crazed out by the whole thing.
Which leads me back to this wedding I attended. I was there with Stelly and my best friends from secondary school. We did not talk much about work, not much about life, not much about anything in particular. We were just having fun with silly words and funny stories. Sometimes, our sentences don’t link or make any sense but we had such a good time.
I guess this only happens with friends we can truly depend on. People you know that will always be there in any calamity or joyous occasions. There are times when I was a lousy friend or an invisible friend. I’m glad they did not let me stray off but kept me on track with the numerous calls for gatherings.
On the same note, I’m really happy that Stelly is not only my love but my friend as well. Someone I can whisper sweet nothings to, and someone I can crack a stupid joke with.
Thank you all, for being such great friends.